4 Important Benefits to Getting Treatment Out of State

A close friend and colleague wrote this post, just about a year ago, and I feel it’s just as pertinent to today!

I often get asked, “why do you live in Colorado and send people from all over the country to Florida for treatment?” Check out her post to see 4 of the key reasons.

Why leaving your hometown for substance abuse treatment is the RIGHT thing to do! Marie G. Guma, PsyD (ABD)

And, as always, if you have questions or comments please don’t hesitate to reach out! I’d love to hear from you and I’m here to HELP!

Clint Clark, MA, LPC – cclark@satoriwaters.com or 720.683.2639

Three Keys to Freedom in 2017

Happy New Year! My hope is that 2017 is a year of hope, prosperity and healing.

If this season has been one of relapse and significant struggle to stay sober don’t give up! Put your relapse plan into action, or create one if you don’t have one! Also, it’s important to use these as opportunities to learn!

Relapse doesn’t have to be a part of recovery, but if we fail to learn from them we’ve missed opportunity. Here are three helpful keys to addressing your relapse(s) and struggles.

Triggers

Triggers are events that happen externally and cause us emotional or psychological discomfort. When triggered, we might feel anxious, panicked, sad, hurt, disappointed, etc. Triggers are normal, and we can react to them in healthy, even beneficial, ways. However, many of us choose to self-medicate instead in an attempt to numb our feelings caused by our triggers.

Do you know what your triggers are? Do you know how they impact you emotionally or psychologically?

Make a list of your triggers. Look at the ones that can be avoided and make a plan to do so. For the ones you can’t avoid, come up with a plan to address them more effectively. In what healthy ways can you engage with these feelings rather than medicating or numbing them?

Shame

Shame is a big issue some folks are aware of, but many are not. Some folks might put this in the category of triggers, but I feel it’s much bigger and deserves its own focus.

First, I think it’s imperative that we make a distinction between shame and guilt. Guilt is I’ve done something bad. It’s a behavior or decision. Shame is I am something bad. This is more about identity. It makes a statement about who we are.

Guilt can addressed by asking for someone’s forgiveness, making amends and empathizing with how we’ve impacted others. Shame… shame just sits on us. It says, you suck! You’re a terrible person! You’re weak. Shame statements are devastating to recovery.

Dealing with our shame statements means we first have to recognize them. I’ve found that the best way to do this is to pay attention to our self-talk. How do you treat yourself when you make a mistake like when you miss a turn driving to an appointment? If you hear yourself saying things like, you idiot! Stupid! then you too are a victim being oppressed by shame.

So how do we deal with shame?

I have found that Brené Brown’s work has been the most beneficial for my journey. She talks about shame reduction and how to work through those shame-triggering experiences. If you want to start with a book, I would recommend starting with The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brené Brown.

However, I believe that the most effective way to tackle this issue is with the aid of a licensed professional counselor, whether that’s in treatment or individual counseling. If you decide to engage a therapist in your process, ask them about shame and how to address it. This can be incredibly freeing and live-giving when addressed appropriately.

Professional Help

Finally, I truly believe – and have seen repeated proof – that the best path to recovery is being proactive with treatment. All too often, treatment is considered as purely LAST resort.

People think, after I have relapsed repeatedly, then I’ll need treatment. If I was homeless living in my car, then it would be time for rehab.

Those statements are SO false. We have to get a handle on our addictions early. Repeated relapse begins to lock our brain’s neuropathway’s into patterns that are incredibly difficult to break.

Proactive treatment in a safe and appropriate center (that not only focuses on sobriety but most importantly deals with our root issues) is imperative! So much is at work ‘below the waterline’ of our addictive compulsive behaviors. Uncovering them, addressing them and learning healthy coping mechanisms is key. Sobriety is so important, but it’s just the tip of the iceberg.

What now?

Reach out! Get help! There’s no time like the present to get 2017 off to a great start!

Do you need help finding a treatment center for you or someone you know? Do you need more information about counseling options, relapse prevention plans or any help with recovery?

Call or email me now: Clint Clark 720.683.2639 cclark@satoriwaters.com

I look forward to hearing from you. Also, as always, if you have feedback, questions or comments, please feel free to contact me!

Five Things to Help Stay Sober on New Year’s Eve

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Let’s face it. For many, celebrating the New Year has become more about alcohol and getting high than anything else. For those trying to stay sober, this presents a significant challenge.

What IF it could be different? What if the focus was welcoming a new year, with all its opportunities and possibilities without losing that focus in a haze of substances?

Here are five strategies to stay sober this New Year’s Eve.\

 

  1. Go with a supportive friend and/or celebrate in a supportive community.

Make this holiday about people who understand your goals and desires to stay sober. If the party you’re going to attend will have alcohol or drugs available, go with someone how has your back and will support your decision to stay sober.

Even better, celebrate in a community that supports you! This is an excellent time to surround yourself with a community that wants the best for you and your future. We’ve all made the mistake in our past of trying to get sober and stay sober alone. It takes support and community. Why not immerse yourself in such a community as you plan for the year ahead?

  1. Reorient the focus of your celebration!

Yes, many people focus their celebration of New Year’s Eve on getting drunk or high. Yet, many of us we’ve come to realize that the short-term, “perceived” benefits of that decision have lead to long-term, destructive consequences. We’ve experienced the negative consequences of our use of drugs and alcohol.

Now is the time to focus on the positive and lasting opportunities for the coming year.

Make this time about celebrating your accomplishments from the past 12 months. Reflect on what this next year might hold for you. It can also be a great time to plan things to look forward to throughout the year!

  1. Take care of yourself.

This is often one thing that we all neglect in our lives; and it shouldn’t come as a surprise that when we neglect our own care, stress and exhaustion can become triggers for medicating with drugs and/or alcohol.

Most of us are also keenly aware of how we’ve struggled with some level of shame or self-contempt in our battle with addiction. The subtle (or not-so-subtle) message is often we don’t deserve to take care of ourselves. Good positive self-care can be one of the best cures to counteract this.

Eat healthy so you physically feel strong, are well fueled and not bogged down and sick from junk food. Get some physical activity going. Do things for yourself that show you matter, even to you! It will go a long way in helping you feel better physically and emotionally.

  1. Set realistic resolutions, and start now!

There’s nothing that says you have to wait until January 1 to start your resolutions. If you’ve decided to stay sober for all of next year, why wait? Start today!

Setting resolutions that are attainable and make you feel good about yourself can be a great motivator. Setting resolutions that are not realistic can be destructive. Be mindful of what’s possible, and stick to it. You’ll thank yourself later.

  1. Get ready to reward yourself for staying sober.

Is there one thing you’ve been wanting for yourself? Is there a special restaurant you’d love to eat at? Is there an activity you really enjoy that you can set up if you remain sober? Will your spouse or significant other agree to take over some chore you may not be a fan of for the next week to reward you?

Whatever it is, give yourself something to look forward to if you stay sober on New Year’s Eve! So often in sobriety, we can get hyper focused on NOT using, on avoiding drugs and alcohol. Give yourself something positive to focus on instead. What is the reward you’re focused on?

These are just a handful of options available to you. Do you have some methods that work for you that aren’t listed? If so, let me know in the comments below.

If you have friends or loved ones that struggle with drugs and alcohol, encourage them to take some of these steps. If you’re concerned about them, talk to them about what you’re seeing and how it makes you feel.

If you need help, support or have any questions please don’t hesitate to reach out! I look forward to hearing from you.

Email: cclark@satoriwaters.com                 Cell: 720.683.2639

15 Signs: It’s Time to Get Help!

Knowing when to seek inpatient treatment for substance or alcohol abuse is important. The reality is it’s probably earlier than you’ve assumed! Early intervention and treatment is KEY to successful recovery.

If you, or someone you know, is struggling with drugs or alcohol it’s time to be honest about the impacts. The time to seek help and treatment is well before loss of employment and relationships, financial ruin and homelessness.

Here is a list of 15 signs indicating time for a professional assessment. If any one of these are criteria are met it’s imperative that you get a professional assessment for addiction and use. If two or more of these criteria are met inpatient treatment is imperative now – not when it feels convenient!

  1. Problems at work or school. Missing too many days. Being put on probation in these places.
  2. Problems relationally at home with spouse, kids, friends, etc. due to substance use.
  3. Money issues and concerns due to spending on substances.
  4. Health beginning to be affected by substance use.
  5. Friend, family or a professional has advised you to get help!
  6. Any legal issues. DUI, arrests connected with substance use.
  7. Knowing use is wrong but refuses to or makes excuses not to stop.
  8. Making poor choices but still using.
  9. Withdrawal symptoms when not using.
  10. Have tried outpatient or individual therapy already and are still using.
  11. Daily life is being interrupted because of use.
  12. Lack of motivation or increase in depression or sadness.
  13. Driven drunk or high even if there was no arrest.
  14. Lying about use.
  15. Has stopped using before for a while but then began to use again.

Addiction should be seen as a national health crisis, according to the Surgeon General. You wouldn’t delay getting help or treatment for a friend, loved one, or yourself for cancer.

Don’t make the mistake of not seeking help early! Don’t wait until the “right time” or for a time they won’t be upset with you. That time will never come.

If you have any questions, or concerns, please don’t hesitate to contact me. I’m happy to help you navigate your options and find the help you need.

Regardless of where you’re located, I can help you arrange for an assessment or intervention if needed.

Addiction IS a life and death issue. Please don’t wait until it’s too late!

Clint Clark 720.683.2639 or cclark@satoriwaters.com